Don't Let the Boogeyman Steal Your
By Sulana Stone
The boogeyman lurking in the closet scares the
bejesus out of little kids. "Big people" know the
imaginary monster from their childhood isn't real. Yet,
adults freeze in their tracks when the same monster pops
up on their path in life.
The closer we come to reaching our dreams, the more
our monstrous emotions and mind-talk flash their urgent
warnings, "Stop! Don't go any further. You can't pull it
off. You're not good enough. You're gonna screw up. Or
get hurt. Or die!" When you buy into these threats, you
can feel confused. Numb. Scattered. Unfocused. So, ask
yourself, "Is what the ego telling me true?" If you
don't challenge the propaganda of the boogeyman, you
might quit going after your dreams altogether.
When you find yourself waylaid by the ego monster,
you can reclaim your power and clarity by using facts
from your life as ammunition against the ego.
"Just the Facts, Ma'am"
Remember the old Dragnet TV cop show? Actor
Jack Webb played the no-nonsense police detective Sgt.
Joe Friday. Often in the course of his questioning, Sgt.
Friday was bombarded by the frantic, emotional babbling
of confused and upset citizens. To cut to the bottom
line, the wise detective somberly requested of the
women, "Just the facts, ma'am."
By gathering facts-and disregarding the misleading
interpretations of people's minds and emotions-the
sergeant built a rock solid case.
In order to withstand the dream-shattering attacks of
the boogeyman, you need to establish a solid case too.
By gathering "just the facts" of your actual
accomplishments-and ignoring the inaccurate conclusions
of your ego and emotions-you create a solid foundation
for creating your dream.
And what did Sgt. Friday do to remember his facts? He
wrote 'em down.
Save Your Dreams with a Journal
With its constant undermining, the ego has an
effective weapon to halt your journey to happiness. The
invalidation distorts your memory. It narrows your
vision. It makes you forget that you are a valuable
person. The monster deliberately distracts your
attention from the times in your life when you did
create what you wanted.
Creating a "Dream-Saver Fact Journal" of your factual
successes is an effective active step you can take to
dispel the devastating, self-defeating inner talk of the
ego. Forget about what you don't do well, or where you
come up short. Jot down what, in fact, has gone well in
your life. Especially, log in evidence that proves your
ego is wrong about you being unlovable, untalented and
unworthy of having what you want.
Friendly Facts Fend Off the Funk
List miracles and major achievements. Add to your
journal daily. As you create success, document the
specific, hard-core, firsthand, personal direct evidence
that you can create your life the way you want it to be.
When did you decide you needed more money, then got a
raise? When did you decide to get a better job, and a
great opportunity "appeared out of nowhere?" When did
you want a new friend or lover, and you miraculously
found one? Despite the odds being against you, when did
you find the perfect place to live? When was there
something wrong with your body, and it healed quicker
The purpose of the Dream-Saver Fact Journal is to
remind you that you have succeeded in the past, and
therefore, you can triumph now. Your own irrefutable
facts will refresh your awareness that you are lovable,
talented and worthy!
Also, look for examples in your life where you felt
good. Did someone unexpectedly treat you to dinner or a
movie? Did you raise the spirits of the grocery clerk
who was having a tough day? Did someone call you out of
the blue with the information you needed? Keep track of
your daily experiences of friendship, kindness,
compassion, courage and acknowledgement.
Amass indisputable proof that verifies that you are
supported when you follow your heart. Highlight actual
events that demonstrate the rewards of expressing your
authentic self in the world. Then review your
achievements every time your energy and joy begin to
wane. Make notes to remind yourself that you've been
victorious in many situations. Solid evidence causes the
boogey monster to lose its power over you.
Move Past the Threats
In my own writing career, I repeatedly consult my
Success Journal throughout my process of articulating
the inner workings of life. Sometimes as I travel into
uncharted territories of authentic expression, the ego
roars, "They'll kill you if you say too much truth! or
"They'll put you away because they think you're crazy."
Popular variations of the same threat are, "You'll go
insane if ..." or "You'll be alone if ..."or "You'll
lose everything if ..." Unless I take action to counter
my ego, I'm stuck in an emotional muck hole and quickly
losing sight of any way out.
Dash the Dastardly Downers
The journal is my lifesaver and ally. This factual
source about my life shows me I'm capable of continuing
in the direction of my goals. My own clear and
undeniable evidence proves that I won't die, get locked
away, go crazy, be alone or lose what's important.
Call the Bluff of the Ego
Bluffing is a primary skill of a successful poker
player. Bluffing is a tactic the boogeyman has to employ
since he never really holds the winning cards. When you
accumulate a wealth of actual life experience to prove
you've repeatedly reached your goals, you have a royal
flush. You're holding the winning hand. So, when the ego
monster appears, call its bluff! When the ego spins a
yarn about how you "always lose," "get hurt," or "are
going to die," pull out your ace in the hole: your
journal of facts proving you have been able to create
what you want in life.
Soothe the Savage Beast
The next time you're looking for a boost in
confidence, don't listen to your mind and emotions.
These rascals frame your life in the worst possible
light. Check your Dream-Saver Journal to remind you of
the successful final outcome the last time your
inaccurate mind and emotions were trying to invalidate
When the boogeyman growls "Whoa!" when your heart
whispers "Go," quell the objections of your ego with
proof of your creative power. Silence your inner critic.
Bore the brute to death with true stories of your worth.
Eventually the bellowing monster will turn into a
pip-squeak and stop undermining you.
By reminding yourself of "just the facts," you'll
quiet the mind and soothe the emotions so you can keep
moving towards your dream.
Sulana Stone, life strategy coach, vision quest guide
and animal communicator, assists people to discover and
express their life purpose through private sessions and
workshops. She provides hot tips and fresh articles for
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